Wednesday, April 15, 2015
I have been smitten with serious illness. I am having to take time out to recuperate. It could be a long process. I certainly will not be posting to this blog for quite a time, maybe never again. The blog will remain, however, I shall not be taking it down. Leaving readers to browse and re-read. A happy continuation of Eastertide to everyone!
Saturday, April 4, 2015
The Resurrection of Christ means that he is alive and still with us. He is alive, present, close to each one of us. He is a loving man-friend. But that man is our God. Through the Resurrection God and man have become one. No longer any need to look for a God “out there”. God is our humanity. God is in in every human being we meet.
As Enhanced Males, we can meditate on what this means for our relationships with the males that focus our attention and stir our loins. Every encounter with a human being is an encounter with God. Jesus, after all, said: “If you do it to one of the least of these, you do it to me.” There are certainly lots of ways in our modern world’s existence where our fellow human beings are crying out for intimacy. There is Jesus, alive, God and man, crying out for intimacy.
There is no reason why we should exclude from this focus those males who long for and find fulfilment in the intimate moments, however fleeting, of mansexing. If that sounds like bold thinking, remember that the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of the Risen Jesus, is given us in order to make us bold in our thinking and to enable us, as Church, to find creative solutions to new and emerging consciousnesses of as yet unfathomed depths in the human make up.
Wednesday, April 1, 2015
In Indiana they are tussling with something that looks like popular support for the homosexual, gay and lesbian, lifestyle. People are suspicious of legislation which is meant to protect religious freedom against government intervention restricting religious positions and practices. There are those who fear that somehow this could be used to discriminate against gays, by people, not governments.
I gather that it works like this: you can put up a notice outside a Christian-run café saying “No gays allowed”, and claim that the whole organization sincerely believes that being gay is against God’s law, and nobody can tell you to take the notice down. You are exercising your guaranteed religious freedom.
It sounds a bit far-fetched, it may be an empty fear. But one can admire a group of people who want their State to be a place where gays and lesbians can be free to be themselves, and, most important of all a State free from discrimination. But isn’t there another law that makes discriminatory behaviour of any kind illegal?
Happily, the Catholic Church, whilst maintaining the sinfulness of the homosexual acts some of us have learned to love and venerate, decries as contrary to the gospel any discrimination against people on the grounds of their homosexual nature.
The problem in this case is the difficulty of not discriminating against, for example, mansexers whilst condemning what they do. Isn’t the condemnation of what mansexers do already a type of discrimination? Don’t we simply need the world to say, “Some men enjoy having sex with men, good for them.”? I may be wrong, but I feel that, as long as there is condemnation there will continue to be discrimination.
Saturday, March 28, 2015
What Stefano writes from Xersex makes some very good points indeed, especially when he says that porn ought not to be the whole of our sex life.
“It's what I try to explain with the latin statement: Omnia munda mundis! from the Letter of S. Paul to Titus: Tt 1,15. Your friend is so right. I love pornography, because I love sex, and obviously pornography is linked to sex. If my sexuality was only there, this would be a restricted living of my sexuality. But I make sex, if not love, with living men, but sometimes I love watching a porn scene or movie or only pics! what is bad? is it bad? I don't believe that. Let's enjoy all life can bring us: sex, joy, not forgetting affection through sex itself.”
I have a feeling that sex has been suppressed for thousands of years and we have got to re-discover it, re-interpet it, fathom its depths and possibilities. We start, of course from recognizing sex as a value in itself, independent of procreation and creating families. But the world seems to know little about that, because of at least two thousand years of suppression or repression of sex. It just did not ought to exist. But when you admit sex, then what? Perhaps what we have got to re-discover is the pure innocence of sex.
Monday, March 23, 2015
I had an exchange with a long-time reader of this blog. He provided me with an article that presented the debate on pornography as conducted within a conference on the subject in Catholic circles. Then he shared with me his own personal life experience as contradicting all the hesitations and caveats expressed in that conference.
The article that sparked his reactions appeared in the Arlington Catholic Herald, under the title: “Boot Camp Tackles Porn, Relationshipŝ.” I read there: ““We love the body. It’s the temple for the Holy Spirit. The body is beautiful, and sex is beautiful when it’s an expression of authentic love,” said Arlington Bishop Paul S. Loverde Feb. 12 at the Mid-Atlantic Congress in Baltimore.
The bishop was responding to the secular criticism that Catholics are ashamed of or disgusted by the human body, specifically sexuality and sexual activity.”
I think the bit that really must have got under my reader’s skin was: “According to Frank Moncher of Arlington Catholic Charities, pornography harms the viewer because of the interplay of bodily, interpersonal, volitional and cognitive factors. It can cause stress, negatively impact family and peer relationships, and form obsessive and distorted thoughts, among other problems. An addict will make “sexual material a priority and an organizing principal,” preferring to consume pornography over spending time with loved ones. Moncher cited the bishop’s examples of the costs porn has on courtship, family life, business and industry, and society as a whole.”
My reader shared the following testimony from his own life-experience and I find his approach very balanced. “I sent the attachment to my last e-mail because of my attraction to pornography. I’ve collected pornography since I was 14 and I disagree with what the article implied that it is harmful, can have a detrimental effect on a family relationship, etc. As I’ve told you I have been married for over 50 years, have four grown children all college educated, all in successful careers. In my mind pornography has not had an ill effect on my family life any more than masturbation has and I began masturbating at 12. I don’t know if you can use the article but I wanted you to know the push being made and how I feel about it.”
Well, I want to thank him so much for sharing that.
Friday, March 20, 2015
On a website called “The New World Order” that I am not too sure what it is about, I came across this wonderful reflection on the place of sex in our contemporary human existence.
“Sex is the unspoken legislator of the world. It dominates our lives. Sexual imagery is everywhere. Social networking is usually a disguised version of sexual networking. Most songs are about sex. The advertising industry is about sex. The beauty industry is about sex. Celebrities are always sexually attractive. Nearly everyone in TV and movies is sexy. Sexy politicians beat the less sexy ones. Sexy people get better and more lucrative jobs. Sexy defendants in trials receive lighter sentences. Sexy people have more friends and are in higher social demand.
Everyone wants to have a fantastic sex life. Everyone is envious of those who are having more of it, with sexier partners. Porn, romance, eroticism – three different approaches to sex – are omnipresent in our culture. A poor sex life can affect our mental health. Dysfunctional sexuality produces neuroses and even psychoses. Many serial killers have been found to have serious sexual problems. The sexual abuse of children ruins countless innocent lives. Horrifically, a substantial number of abused themselves become abusers, thus perpetuating the cycle.
Abrahamism is terrified of the power of sex and seeks, in effect, to eradicate any visible signs of it. It is supposed to be carried out shamefully, in the dark, in silence, in a bedroom. Capitalism, on the other hand, constantly uses sex appeal and titillation to sell things to the consumer society. So anyone living in a Judaeo-Christian capitalist society is infected with a dangerous sexual ambivalence.
We view it as a fabulous thrill, but also a dangerous temptation that can wreck our life. We simultaneously lust after it and fear it. Doublethink underlies our attitude to sex: we at all times hold in our heads contradictory messages about it. It’s “dirty” yet we want as much of it as we can get. It’s not to be talked about and yet we talk about nothing else. Even when we’re not talking about it, we are. It’s an “absent presence”. Even when we think it’s not there, it is. It’s an ever-present subtext. Our bodies understand it much better than our conscious minds. We can be saying one thing while our body language is saying the precise reverse. Sex makes hypocrites and madmen of us all.
No matter how hard we try, we can’t escape sex. It’s the pulse of our world and, in truth, of the entire cosmos. Its significance cannot be overestimated. It’s as important as it gets.
If sex isn’t humanity’s greatest obsession, what is? Therefore, there’s no point in shying away from sex, no point in being embarrassed or dishonest about it. A new world must have a new attitude to sex: a much healthier, more honest and more productive one.”