Saturday, July 29, 2017

Post-retirement 2

Patrick’s comment on my last post prompts me to write some more.  He quotes his Catholic theologian friend as saying: “Everyone is entitled to love and to have sex in the way and to the extent he (she) is able to”!  That reminds me of something John NcNeil wrote on his blog right at the end of his life: everybody has a right to his or her particular sexual expression.  I find that a beautiful principle because it venerates the goodness of sex.  Sex is part of each human being’s individual make-up and each of us has our individual attractions and expressions of our sexual being.  To be fully human we need to integrate and express our individual sexual character.  To become complete, whole, human beings is what our very existence is about.  So, thinking about sex like this, brings it right into the realm of the spiritual.  Further, if we believe in Christ we believe that God became man.  We can think of our aim in life as to become holy, to come to share in the very being of God.  But, since God became man, there is no becoming God for us without our attaining the fullness of our human being.  Hence, the importance of sexual fulfillment within our Christian vocation.

With Donald Trump’s latest rave the question of transgender comes into our consciousness.  I know nothing about transgender because I am not transgender and do not recall having had anything much to do with transgender persons.  So I can only start from the principle that they know what they are about.  As a Christian I must leave the matter up to their conscience.  As far as the Church is concerned the ordinary magisterium would condemn sex-change on the grounds that it is interfering with nature.  But that principle can never be infallible because it goes too far.  Every surgical intervention is, in fact, an interference with nature, even if it is to remove an aggressive tumour.  Therefore, as with so many other ethical problems, we have to fall back upon the primacy of the individual conscience.  Christians are not called to judge and condemn other people’s consciences, but rather to live and let live.

Monday, July 24, 2017

Post-retirement 1

This is my first post-retirement posting.  I thought I had better post something, just in case Google takes it into its head to delete a blog after a certain amount time with no posting activity.
I have been hearing a lot of homophobic talk recently from guys who think they are so macho in the rural world in which I move, and from fundamentalist Catholics that come to visit us.  I was thinking that the type of upset that recognizing, or thinking they recognize, a homosexual causes to these people should be seen in parallel with those who like peanut butter and those who do not. 
I happen not to particularly like peanut butter.  Other people make it the delight of their day.  Now if I get upset because somebody likes peanut butter and I don’t I am just a bit of a fool.  If somehow or other another person’s liking peanut butter kind of threatens my peace of mind and upsets my equilibrium, I might need to think about consulting somebody.  So, it seems to me, why should anybody get upset at any man who enjoys fucking another man, or who enjoys sucking and being sucked by a fellow male, or enjoys masturbating along with a fellow who prides himself on his masculinity?  Why should the fact that a guy only enjoys sex with women feel that his very life contours are threatened by the sight of, or the hearing of, another man who likes sex with men?


Another thing I could share on is the business of a Monsignor Luigi Capozzi being caught holding a sex party in his Vatican apartment to the left of the colonnades at St. Peter’s.  I must say that I am in full sympathy with every enhanced male who acts out his homosexuality, because I think that is what we should be doing, whether we are clerics, religious or whatever.  But you have to face the fact that society and ecclesiastical society in particular still has its taboos and inhibitions.  If you are living in a highly conservative or religion conscious milieu it is just stupid to be flamboyantly putting on noisy and drug-fired sexual orgies. 

Plus the drug element is criminal.  Sex is too good and valuable a human exercise to get it mixed up with drugs.   

Sunday, January 22, 2017

Last Post



I have been reading a well-researched book by historian Anthony Everett, which presents various day to day aspects of life in classical Ancient Rome.  About the Romans approach to sexuality he has this to say:

A MIXED AND BALANCED DIET
FOR THE ROMANS, sexual desire was an appetite to be satisfied, like hunger or thirst. It had little or nothing to do with love, and it was not expected to play a role in the formation of relationships. The shame that Christianity came to associate with love-making-and which is still a mark of Western civilization-was missing from the ancient world.
Nor did the Romans have any idea of sexual status, of being gay or straight. Sex was what one did, not what one was; in Rome it didn't matter much whom you fancied-man or woman, boy or girl. Homosexual behaviour was widespread and generally acceptable. However, taking pleasure exclusively in one object of desire or in one kind of sexual practice was suspect. There was nothing wrong with sodomy, but you shouldn't specialize in it (or anything else): a varied diet was best.
And having too much sex was another sign of effeminacy.
Excessive ejaculation was considered to be weakening. Once the elder Cato, a stickler for morality, came across a young nobleman leaving a brothel and told him: 'Keep up the good work!' When he came across him again in similar circumstances, he snapped: 'When I complimented you on good work, I didn't mean you should make the place your home.'
(From SPQR by Anthony Everett, p. 105)

My feeling would be that our modern society, in the new age of Trump, needs to re-adopt the ancient Roman attitude to sex, with the all-important difference that specialization in sodomy for those who have that taste be encouraged.

This is my last post.  I am not going to take down the blog.  It will be available for those who might discover it in the future to browse my reflections, and for those who wish to re-read.  The fact is that I have had a major heart attack which has revealed a serious degree of heart disease.  I conclude that I need to reduce my activities and retire from some of my ministerial commitments, including this one. Many people retire from their life’s activities long before the seventy-fifth year of their age which I have reached. 
Writing this blog has allowed me to give expression to my own homosexual character and helped in my integration of the gift God made me of Enhanced Masculinity. I know that it has helped other people similarly struggling with the sense of their divine endowment with homosexuality and the reticence of the Christian Churches to approve their orientation and lifestyle.  In this week of prayer for the unity of Christians let us pray that we all may move onward to something more sex-positive that will enable the gift of Enhanced Masculinity to flourish with courage and conviction for the healing of our society.





Thursday, December 1, 2016

Changing the World

I have been listening recently to the rantings of homophobes and to people within the Church arguing against gay marriage.  It strikes me that none these arguments will ever be solved until people as a whole can see enhanced masculinity for what it is, something that is totally distinct from heterosexual sex and procreative marriage.
  Mansex is about two guys identifying with each other in every aspect of their being, which is necessarily male and sexual.  To share and play on this level needs to be recognized by all as a value in itself.  

It needs to be recognized by every level of society that every man has a right to have adult and consensual sex with other men.  Relationships that superficially resemble those of heterosexual marriage, strong male friendships, can be built on the mansex experience, certainly, but, fundamentally it is a mistake to think out homosexuality in parallel with heterosexuality and marriage between a man and a woman.
  In the whole field of inter-male eroticism there is no question of procreation and this makes a universe of a difference.  Homophobes and those who condemn gay marriage do not see this and probably do not want to see it.

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

Erotic Play

I had this thought: Not to give time to enjoying your bodily sensations is wrong, is unchastity.  We have to take time out to play the erotic zones of our body.  The practice is needed for both psychological and spiritual health.  Down the centuries a lot of ideas contrary to this have been hammered into people as forms of asceticism.  This has been very harmful.  If we ignore our body, our erotic self, we ignore, deny about fifty per cent of ourselves.  We finish up distorted or half alive personalities.  This is against truth and, therefore, against chastity.
Then I thought, well, what do I mean by our erotic zones.  I know that I get sensations of pleasure and electric energy that go through my body when I finger my tits, caress my balls, stroke my cock, palm the inside of my thighs, but perhaps other people can get the magic working through playing other zones.  So I googled "male erotic zones".  Largely I discovered from something from the Times of India that it could be almost anywhere, if the touch, the caress was sufficiently delicate.  A reference to the scalp as an erotic zone recalled to my mind the time I got tremendous pleasure and comfort from a guy wearing combat pants who gently fingered my scalp for about an hour while I sucked on his cock.  A very satisfying experience.


But, then, that's just it.  You cannot do it all yourself.  So get out there and enjoy yourself with other guys.  The energies created will help the whole world.



Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Solosex

There have been some very valuable reflections recently in columns and comments about that veneration of the male urge some call self-pleasuring, others self-loving, others masturbation.  Particularly encouraging is the sense that comes across from the discussion of the rightful place of the practice of venerating the male urge in our indwelling of our sexual nature as men.

AOM wrote it “Is not a defilement.  It is a Joy and Bliss and Beauty.  It is deeply connecting intimately with ourselves, Physically, emotionally, and Spiritually.  It is the Foundation of our Sexuality.  So, if you can, let’s take the time today (and every day) to make love to yourselves.”  What I particularly like there is the notion of deeply connecting intimately with ourselves.  Such a connection enables me to say: “I am male.  I am a fucker.  I have the man urge.” 

What ‘David’ one of the readers of AOM is quoted as contributing to the debate is particularly valuable because he addresses head on the devastating religious principle we were all brought up on that outlaws masturbation as not being an act of procreation, the only valid application of sex.  For most of us that principle stopped us going anywhere near masturbation, you hardly dared to do a second time any action that began to get you hard.  David starts off by rebutting the idea that self-pleasure or solosex is only second best.  He sees solosex as absolutely pivotal.  He says it is the most intimate expression of knowing ourself.  That brings us back to that basic notion of self-connection that AOM talked about and reminds me of John McNeill’s principle that there is no such thing as bad sex, there is only good sex, better sex and best sex.  In that scheme solosex is good sex.  But David is now saying that solosex is not a substitute for the better types of sex.  It is what it is, a value in itself.  I find that a progression in thought on the subject.  David further spells out the trauma wrought on our very being by our religious upbringing: “Those who believe sex is sinful and should be limited to “procreation only” are probably the most separated from knowing themselves in this intimate way.” 


I applaud this acclamation of the value of knowing ourselves incarnated in solosex.  David enlarges on the damage that so many of us have felt caused by the guilt complexes and self-torturing over masturbation.  He says: “They are almost afraid to explore this erotic territory because of the chaotic and uncontrolled energy involved and the blinders religion has put in them.”  I hope that, henceforth, we will all be able to exult in the chaotic and uncontrolled energies we release as we exercise the erotic veneration of our masculinity.  David acclaims it as “liberating” and I agree.  David is not exalting solosex above sex with others, but he wants it to be seen as on an equal footing.  His conclusion is particularly enriching: “Those of us who are willing to surrender to our own erotic energy and explore our sexuality as pure “recreation” know how exciting and enriching the experience can be.”


I hope we will really be able to embrace veneration of our male urge by solo eroticism as a way of creating ourselves anew whenever we need it.

Then there is ‘French Patrick’ who brings out beautifully how solosex is a deeply spiritual activity.  He defines it as a religious tribute to yourself. 

Sunday, October 2, 2016

At Home in our Sexual Being

I had this reflection on masturbation. 
Masturbation enables us men to be in touch with ourselves as completely sexual beings.  It is health-giving because a man needs to know and experience what he is as a man. 
 


For this reason masturbation is to be recommended and in its fullest tantric forms.  That said, sexual play with other men takes the self-recognition of our sexual being to a new plateau.  

It is one level of acceptance to own oneself to oneself as a fully sexual masculine being but this is completed by owning oneself or having oneself acknowledged as fully a man by other men.  

Simply for us all to be complete beings, in the mode in which we have been created, we have to enter into all the practices of our enhanced masculinity.  It would be a different world if all men were fully at home in their sexual being.