Guys jacking off, encouraging one another to jack off, talking about their jack off experiences and the same for fucking and sucking is a brave new vibrant gay world stimulated by the internet. In all of this we find a chastity that is much more valuable than the old chastity of abstinence, which is based, after all, on the rather quaint principle that sex should not be. Those of us who have a vow of chastity made in the days when the sexual abstinence vogue dominated, have to realize that these values can mutate and a new type of chastity becomes imperative once we have accepted the inherent good of our male to male appetites.
Sex-positive chastity, to the old school, sounds like a contradiction in terms, but to the man who has accepted enhanced masculinity, it is the consecration of his specific mode of being. The basis of this is that we cannot allow ourselves to see sin as in any way inherent to man to man erotic play, it us just a tremendous celebration of something good. There is also the underlying principle that the original idea of a vow of chastity was not to not have sex, but to not have babies, not have a family, not to covenant your sexuality in a relationship where somebody had claims on you, so as to be free for the Lord. There are all sorts of wonderful, and very spiritual things you can do with sex, without infringing your vow of chastity. In fact they will bring it to a new fulfilment. If I am primarily advising myself on this, then so be it. My blog is where I write my personal reflections, my journal, but open to other viewers.