Where does homophobia come from? Why does it arise? Of course there are two types of homophobia. There is the externalized form, non-gays who hate gays or hate the whole idea of homosexuality. Then there is internalized homophobia. Gays who hate the idea that they are gay and try to disown it or hide it from themselves. Neither form is healthy, but does damage to both the hated and the hater.
Homophobia can be strangely pervasive. It colours far more lives and societal interaction than we might at first realize. It might simply prevent us talking openly or up front when homosexuality is mentioned in some context. Just a tiny moment of hesitation or tension. It affects people, but it is not their fault.
Where does it come from? What causes homophobia? A person that regards gay people and homosexuality with suspicion will probably explain his feelings by saying that homosexuality is not natural. But does this mean anything other than he regards with suspicion any urge that he does not have himself? You also hear people saying that homosexuality is a perversion. But that is a value judgement that begs the question as to where people get the idea that only heterosexual activity is right?
Of course, a lot of the people we are dealing with it in a religious context will take refuge behind the statement that it is against God’s law. But that is only another way of begging the question. To be against God’s law it must be doing some harm to somebody.
People will tell you that homosexuality is disgusting. But then, I like seafood, snails, frogs legs and tripe and people tell me that my tastes are disgusting. So is this anything other than what the old philosophical adage dealt with: De gustibus non est disputandum.