Saturday, June 29, 2013
Today we are celebrating the splendid feast of the foundation pillars of the Church of Rome. Two apostles, one chosen by Christ before his passion and resurrection and the other by the Risen Christ while he was soldiering in Syria. (Get the modern ring.) They both died a martyr’s death in Rome, where Peter was the first leader of the Roman Christian community. Their tombs are still there and it is a pleasure to venerate them when in Rome.
I found myself reflecting recently on an interesting conflict these two men totally dedicated to Christ had with each other. Paul accused Peter of duplicity. He saw him comfortably eating at pagan tables until his Jewish colleagues turned up, when Peter took to observing the Jewish kosher and separative laws. In the
Church of today, it is a great pity that many of us who are graced with enhanced masculinity are forced to behave in exactly that duplicitous type of way. We have to hide our enhanced male behaviours or proclivities for fear of losing our position or standing, or of having our professional, or, even our married, life ruined. This is largely because church and society have not yet accepted that God did a good thing when he created enhanced men. Perhaps we ought to pray to Saints Peter and Paul to do something about it.
Paul, of course, many enhanced males would hesitate about. But the male on male activities Paul did not like were because they were done by pagans. He does not really have our concept of enhanced masculinity, so can hardly be talking about it.
Thursday, June 27, 2013
Pope Francis was talking about Christian acceptance. He gave as an example the single mother who goes to the parish to ask for Baptism for her child and hears “a Christian” say: “no, you can’t have it, you’re not married”. “Look at this girl who had the courage to carry her pregnancy to term” and not to have an abortion. “What does she find? A closed door”, as do so many. “This is not good pastoral zeal, it distances people from the Lord and does not open doors. So when we take this path … we are not doing good to people, the People of God”. Jesus “instituted seven sacraments, and with this approach we institute the eighth, the sacrament of the pastoral customs office.” Finally Pope Francis explained that Jesus wants everyone to be close to him. “Let us think of all Christians of good will who err and shut the door instead of opening it”. Let us ask the Lord to grant that “all who approach the Church find doors open to encounter Jesus’ love”.
Among the many who find a closed door when they approach the Church are enhanced males, men who have sex with men. I am left hoping and praying that Pope Francis will find a way of opening the door to them.
Monday, June 24, 2013
I was visiting recon, the site for fetish and kinky based gay guys. I had a flashback to when I was happily masturbating as a youngster and coming into my first contacts with the Christian teaching on sexuality – not to give way to the unlawful movements of the flesh. I could not work out what was meant by this phrase, wondered whether it was what I was doing masturbating.
But dismissed the idea “It could not possibly be that.” Perhaps because I sensed the inappropriateness of calling it unlawful. So now, looking at all the fetishes and activities men enjoy and that help us to express our masculinity and knowing that every aspect of it has been despised and condemned as contrary to Christian morality, I find myself saying: “There cannot possibly be anything wrong with it, it is so natural to so many and does so much good.
Friday, June 21, 2013
I have found some more inspirational remarks on Conner Habib’s blog (link on this blog in lower right hand column.) Conner talks about the spiritual dimension of sex and identifies its primordial manifestation in the change of consciousness we experience in our erotic ecstasies as we reach one type of orgasm or another. We need to develop our orgasmic life as part of our sex-positive life-view. If this was accepted as healthy psychological and spiritual thinking, our world would be a better place. There would be more peace within males and more peace between males. My dream is of a world where men fuck each other rather than kill each other. As somebody remarked to me recently, developing gay life would be as effective a way of population control as is war. Men having sex with men rather than making babies.
One could even think that here we touch on the no longer appropriate character of the historical Catholic teaching that sex should always be open to procreation. It belongs to a world that could not afford to miss one baby, because few survived. Life has moved on. There is something to be said for giving life by having babies, but there is something to be said by giving life through sex without having babies.