Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Monday, July 29, 2013
governing body to whip gays. This for some of them could be very sexually fulfilling. But, of course, if they are repressed they might not know what they are experiencing.
Dave gave some statistics about the frequentation of gay porn websites by guys from the Arab World. I have observed with some interest how my blog gets visitors from some remarkable countries, like Saudi Arabia, Qatar, United Arab Republic, Egypt, Turkey, Iraq, Pakistan and the latest new country to register on my flag counter was Iran. This probably shows that guys have their interior struggles there as well between what their religion tells them and what they feel in the make up of their own being. We should all pray for each other.
Sunday, July 28, 2013
My reply was as follows: “Thanks for writing and sharing your questions and reflections.
I think there are moments where I touch on the subject of married men who are also enhanced males, in common parlance, bi. You will certainly find repeated in my posts that all sex between men is only a type of masturbation. What makes the difference, morally I suppose, is the likelihood, openness to procreation. So I am all in favour of married men having sex with men. If masturbation is good and healthy and morally kind of neutral, masturbation together with other men, this includes fucking and sucking, is no different. It is difficult to think that what is not a sin done individually can become a sin when two people do it together.
Sex is always good. But how it effects other people is where Christian morality must come in. So sex between men needs to be between consenting adults, for example. A married man engaging in sex with men needs to avoid upsetting his wife and destroying his marital relationship. In the ideal sex-positive world women would understand and accept that their men were going to have sex with men. This may have been the case in certain classical societies. In the culture we live in, it would be rare to find a woman who accepts that her husband is going to have sex with men and not feel threatened by it. The situation needs to be taken into consideration. At bottom, though, the only true infidelity to marriage for a man is adultery, that is sex with another woman with the risk of bringing children into the world that cannot be parented properly.
In fact, as I write these things here, I realize that I have already dealt with them somewhere on the blog. But a blog is a day to day thing and part of it is just about saying the same things in today's light which is different from yesterday's.
I am sure you should go with your desires and needs for sex with men, provided you can do so without damaging your marriage relationship. Guilt is an insidious thing. I know of no other way of dealing with it other than getting quite clear on the intellectual level what you think is the truth and then taking no notice of the feelings. Guilt is a feeling. We have to live by our convictions not by our feelings. This is far from easy. Living by convictions rather than by feeling arises in many other areas of life, of course.”