A guy asked me for advice. He is partnered with another guy in a relationship that has endured many years. He jacks off with other guys on the phone and online. His problem was that he was going through a phase of remorse and anxiety. He feels that he has somehow let his partner down through his activities with other guys. Of course everything depends on the understanding there is between two guys in a relationship.
But my reply to this guy was: surely your partner cannot expect you not to jack off solo or, generally, away from him. Just because he is your partner does not mean that he owns your sexuality. You are his partner, not his sex-slave. Personally I do not see why any partner should be concerned about his man jacking off, sharing fantasies with other guys where there is no physical contact, or using porn. But it is not for me to impose my ways of thinking on any partnered man.
It seems to me that our make up as enhanced males can be quite complex and we all have a great variety of turn ons and attractions, to say nothing of fetishes. Guys partnered with others will have to realize that there is nothing wrong with them if they cannot fulfil all the erotic needs of their partner. Above all not being able to go along with a partner’s fetish need not interfere with a true deep love person to person. Sex and love are distinguishable.