I was struck by Lenny’s comment on my post “Heart”. First of because he is either a new commentator or, at least, one that does not comment often.
He wrote: “You have given an excellent description of what one social psychologist called the tenderness taboo. This taboo continues to take its toll on the relationships between men. Another phenomenon which co-exists with this taboo has been the imitation of heterosexual role playing in our relationships with each other. We are not male to female but we are male to male. Quite a different basis for our relationships to each other.”
The “tenderness taboo” puts into one neat phrase the difficulty that we men need to get over. It is good to hear Lenny say that the taboo continues to hold sway even today, because I thought I might be writing about a phenomenon that was somewhat outmoded. Lenny’s second point is an approach that I have tried to put across right from when I started talking about enhanced masculinity. The very nature of man to man sexual relationships is totally different from man to woman and nothing about man to man should be modelled on man to woman paradigm.
Society needs to unpack the riches of man to man eroticism and the world should be better for it.