Whattk asked a question on my post “Procreation” that needs an attempt at an answer: “P.S. I know even masturbation has been (and is) frowned upon. But what is the stance when it comes to masturbation for the purposes of procreation?”
The official teaching of the Catholic Church, if that is what Big Whack is talking about, is certainly unchanged and it is that masturbation in itself is a grave sin. Personally I cannot see how this can be true. But for those who teach that masturbation is a grave sin in itself this means that it can never be permissible for any reason whatever. I can recall heated discussions when I was in seminary as to whether it was permissible for a guy to go have his sperm tested, because to get the spunk sample the guy had to masturbate and this was a sin. You might hope that a lot of religionists would have got past such tight and matter-centred automotive thinking, but, I am afraid, many have not. It gives them security in that they know where they are and are fearfully of any approach that involves interpretation in the face of the precise human circumstances.
To me a man producing spunk, getting his rocks off, is just a good thing. Procreation whether a guy achieves it by depositing his spunk in his woman’s vagina directly or by some other means of transfer always raises the issue of responsible parenthood. That, I think, is where the true morality of sex and procreation lies. If I sell my semen to a sperm bank, for example, how do I take responsibility for the kids I bring into the world? The commandment to love one another implies that I do my best for the children I beget and not leave them to be brought up by others by haphazard chance. Of course, perhaps good quality sperm banks can be relied upon to see that my semen will be made use of by the right type of people in the right ways, then it may be morally acceptable.
But there is still a question in my mind about the natural bond I ought to have with my offspring. Is it right to bring into the world kids that I know I am not going to be able to build a father-child relationship with? A guy could have a moral issue with the proper use of his spunk, but not with the act of masturbating, nor with any of the activities of enhanced masculinity right across the board!