Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Sexually Individual

I heard Conner Habib in a chat show available on you tube say a wonderfully creative and liberating thing.  He reckons that there are as many sexualities as there are people.  Each of us has his own sexual individual make up.  We have to be ourselves and find ourselves as sexual beings.  Another dimension he kind of touched on was the formation that religion has given us.  There, the only spiritual avenues that were open to us were really sex-negative.  Here I am speaking not Conner Habib.  After we have found and realized how to be faithful to our own sexuality we have to incorporate it into our spirituality.  
One thing I have become certain of is that Jesus is with us in the process of becoming our true sexual selves and integrating that with the spiritual path he indicates; the way of loving one another.  We have to acknowledge that the dynamic urge I call "enhanced masculinity" is about relating to another male as a sexual being, as another expression of the male sexual dynamic that I feel. 
This in itself is already spiritual and easily seen as capable of being integrated into Jesus' dynamic of loving one another, being one with one another, serving one another.  Indeed, the asexual spiritual approach then begins to appear as isolationist, totally opposed to the Christian dynamic of love, compassion and unity.  The gift of enhanced masculinity is meant to draw men together to enjoy their masculinity together in its full sexual dimension.  The sexual is, manifestly, an integral component of masculinity.  But for the man who is on the wavelength of enhanced masculinity the sexual is a cardinal component of this dynamic.
Picture of Conner from his Blog
On his blog Conner writes: “Fundamentalism is the default attitude of our culture when it comes to sex. It’s an attitude composed of a psychotic certainty about what is sexually moral.  People and institutions in power may have set the stage for these fundamentalist attitudes, but everyone perpetuates them.  Whenever you slut-shame someone, whenever I reactively flinch at a friend’s sexual preference, whenever we unthinkingly let a sexual taboo go unchallenged, even if we are sex positive, we reinforce sexual fundamentalism.  The best way to combat fundamentalism is to cultivate in thinking, feeling and action, a true plurality. Sexually, you may engage with people you might not normally find attractive, try a new sexual act, question your patterns and boundaries.”

That I find powerful and persuasive thinking that coincides with my ideas.  A link to Conner’s blog is to be found on my “interesting sites” list at the bottom far right if you scroll down.

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

In the Service of Cock

Sam on his blog “The adventures of a redneck fist pig. “ (See “my blogs” column on right.) under the date of December 12 published a beautifully written account of his servicing a Middle Eastern man at the glory hole.  He spiritualizes it immediately by citing the principle “Make love not war.”  By that he means give erotic pleasure to other men out of love.  As I read it I saw the author as a man beautifully dedicated to gospel values of love and to assuring the value of erotic communion between men.  Plus, an added bonus, at the end of reading his blog entry I shot a huge load.  The title of the blog entry I am referring to is "Middle Eastern Men - Make Love Not War."  Sam has since posted some enlightening "rules" for encouraging true spiritual depth between men sexing with each other.  "The exchange of male energy should always be completed," Sam writes, "with love and devotion to one another."  He also writes: "Individual is free to put into practice what he understands to be correct and only the divine lord god will guide every person to worship in the best possible manner."  I like the freedom for development and giving place to our fetishes that this implies.  I also like the definition of men sexing with each other as "the exchange of male energy".  For me that really hits the nail on the head.

Friday, December 11, 2015

Being Ourselves

Business took me away from home for three weeks in Novem ber.  Then I spent a week at the bedside of a dying colleague and another week burying him.
I was much inspired  by the comments on my last post. I take up here what Patrick wrote, him in black and me in red : Over the past few months I have been reflecting on what it really means to be Catholic, a Religious and Gay!  We have such a wrong understanding of God’s intentions for us in our world today.  We are called to pass on a real understanding of what God’s intentions are for us.  We are called to witness that God challenges us to reach out to one another without any discrimination.  God is sending us to build bridges between different tribes, classes, nations and religions.  I like that because it fits straight into the gospel where Jesus wants us all to be one.  God is against all things divisive between human beings.  The first thing that leaps into my mind is that our enhanced masculinity is a superb vehicle for uniting all of us moved by the mighty masculine spirit. 
Patrick continues: We are called to live as brothers of one another independently of any differences of race, colour, sexual preference or religion.  Patrick there is poignantly addressing the present world situation.  Our practice of enhanced masculinity is wonderfully suited to building bridges of brotherhood, if only the world could accept it as such.  The problem is with the stage of consciousness of our organized religions with regard to that.  They lag behind and seek security in conservatism.  That makes it very difficult for people to remain within the religious movement and profess openly the value of mansex.  Such profession normally results in us getting thrown out, witness what happened to Mgr  Krysztof Charamsa recently. 
 Such events make it very difficult for us to do what Patrick says: Our religion should not separate us from others, but it should establish unity and solidarity among all.  It should enable us to testify that our sexuality is gift! That it can unite rather than separate us.  Male or female, straight or gay, bisexual or lesbian or transgender each of us in his/her own way reflects to the world an image of God.  Each one of us is created in the image and likeness of God! So that there is something about our homosexual nature that is created to make present a particular aspect of God. No doubt we will never probe the mystery exactly, but the beauty of masculinity and mansex is a good starting point.  Patrick says: Each one of us is a part of that great creation on which God gazed and pronounced it to be “very good indeed”.  That includes our very homosexual character that God created as part of our individuality.
Patrick’s final section is inspirational: So, as Catholic, Religious & Gay, we are especially privileged to use our special position in creation to do all in our power to testify to this reality.  It means being true to our God, to our religion, true to our calling, true to our specific sexuality.  It means pulling down all the barriers that separate us one from another.  What a calling! What a destiny! What a mission is ours in the world at present!  How frightening a destiny!  Yet, I am sure it is what each of us is called to be!
I think that what Patrick is feeling after there is a sacramental character for enhanced masculinity and mansex.  When I masturbate and interact erotically with other men from within the Mystery of Christ, that is, as a baptized Christian, I am giving power in their masculinity to men the world over.  Such activity is grace-sharing and needs to be recognized as such. It is open to us to enact a spiritual transformation of the cosmos through mansex, just because we are members of the Body of Christ.

Saturday, November 14, 2015

Erotic Universal Communion between Men

An extract from my journal: 

The discovery of http://churchofhomosexuality.tumblr.com/, a blog that sounds to be dedicated to the full recognition of our homosexuality as a spiritual mode of being and the rediscovery of the Bible of Cock, led me to reflect on the notion of homosexuality, erotic universal communion between men, as a spiritual mode of being in itself.  It has had thousands of years of negative press, but now it is revealed.  This communion, accepted and recognized, is in itself a kind of dedication of one’s sexual being akin to the received spirituality of consecrated chastity.

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Enhanced Male Spirituality

Something Br. William of Ashram West wrote about Tantra helped me to see how all the strands of my sexuality come together.  The jeans and the attention to the masculine, the propensity to masturbate, the mansex.  Tantra is about realizing the spiritual through the pleasurable.  I was never made to live the received life of ascetic chastity, but I have discovered an alternative way for myself and those like me of consecrating oneself and one’s sexuality as a spiritual gift to God.

As I lie on my bed and stroke my hard cock through the raw denim of my 501s I have a real sense of fulfilment of the whole course of my sexual development.  I enjoy the peace and satisfaction that the pleasure gives, as tantra recommends, but, more especially, I have a sense of admiring and venerating the masculinity that God has given me.  In this moment I feel that Jesus is very close and that I am fulfilling my call to consecrated celibacy as consecrated sexuality.  Another dimension of this spiritual experience is the sense of oneness it gives me with all my fellow males out there, communion in the cosmic male dynamic.

Sunday, November 1, 2015

Porn Blocking Continued

One of the comments on my last post put the episode of care-home operators who blocked pornography into an excellent perspective when he talked about the manifest evil of “mind control”.  A week later I happened to be travelling and found my access to porn blocked in a hotel.  At that point I did a little research on the internet and discovered “Hotspot Shield”, basically a security guard that functions as a virtual personal network (VPN) and therefore provides a tunnel through anybody else’s blocking.  It comes free.  I have to buy the paid version because access to my blog exceeded the bandwith covered by the free version.  The paid version also seems to mean Hotspot Shield will work outside of North America.  It seems odd that one has to go to all these lengths just to avoid being subjected to other people’s moral code that they think they have a right to impose on others.  How far freedom of conscience? I now find a notice on my blogger overview about European law demanding that information be available in certain cases about my use of cookies.  I guess that is going in the same direction.  If I wasn't using my freedom of conscience to deal with pornography in the positive way I think gay porn should enter into enhanced males' lives, would European law enforcement be interested in my cookies.  Of course, it could be about international security.  I really know nothing about it, but I understand it is my responsibility to find out.  But it does make me wonder whether sex-positive bloggers are going to be forced off the net.

Friday, October 16, 2015

The Role of Porn

There was an incident with a care home where a priest resident had been observed by the staff to be downloading gay porn.  The sisters who run the place decided to install a porn blocker.  This led me to reflect on the importance of porn to the enhanced male.  The enhanced male’s drive is all about erotic communion with the cosmic dynamic of the male urge.  He cannot be always involved in erotic play with other men.  By mindful masturbation or tantric self-stimulation he can realize some of his potential, but enjoying pornography can also be a very valuable channel for realizing his erotic communion with the male dynamic and, as such, very constructive.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015


I have been thinking that I could resume posting to the blog in a very moderate and spaced out way.  I still need to manage my time and energies because I still need a lot of rest every day.  But, during my months of illness, I have been keeping up my journal and writing down other bits of reflection that have come to me.   I could begin posting these to the blog as a kind of thought for the day, but not, by any means, on a daily basis.  Also, I will not be posting any pictures, because that takes a lot of time and energy in itself.   So we will see how this goes.

Saturday, August 8, 2015


I have returned to my principal official ministry, but am having to hold back on two other areas that I normally minister in.  I find that my ministry on this blog is also more personal than official and I will have to wait a bit more before getting back to it.  It is a question of time and energy available.  I was thinking the other day on the feast of the Transfiguration about the Glory of God shining through the Body of Christ.  As enhanced males we are called to give glory to God in our bodies, exulting to his praise in our masculinity, alone or in company of other males, principally by masturbation, fucking and sucking.  I post here a picture of a naked Christ that a reader of this blog sent me recently.

Wednesday, April 15, 2015


I have been smitten with serious illness.  I am having to take time out to recuperate.  It could be a long process.  I certainly will not be posting to this blog for quite a time, maybe never again.  The blog will remain, however, I shall not be taking it down.  Leaving readers to browse and re-read.  A happy continuation of Eastertide to everyone!

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Among the Comments.

Ken wrote: “The feeling I get from browsing through your blog is that it's more porn than it is about living a "Christian" life, or integrating sexuality with spirituality.”   

The porn adornment on my blog is to me an essential part of my argument and approach.  We enhanced male Christians have to shake off a lot of negativity from our formation about all things sexual, and, most particularly about mansex.  I see the porn I post in a totally positive light as an illustration and celebration of the good of enhanced masculinity and of the value and beauty of mansex.  I hope my readers will be carefully absorbing what the images tell us about the deeper impulses men engage when having sex with each other. 

I know that I, personally, have not always felt the liberty to look on pornographic imagery in this positive way.  But I venture to hope that my posting of them now will help readers to relax out of their inhibiting formation and be able to enjoy the riches that mansex encapsulates.  Sex as a good thing needs taking a good look at.

Patrick, from “More of the Same” wrote: “Beautifully expressed! May we reach out to each other in that spirit of service to others in every way, may it too enrich our sexual encounters with other men and unite us in a special way through that act of sexual encounter. The Risen Christ invited Thomas to touch him. May we see in our sexual intimacy with other men a real Christian and Christlike connection with our brothers in Christ. Let Easter refresh and renew our sexuality as something great and sacred, a God-given "GIFT", meant to be shared with our brothers. Peace to all in the Risen Christ, Patrick”  That is a reflection that certainly succeeds in putting the spiritual value into the erotic encounter.

Saturday, April 4, 2015


The Resurrection of Christ means that he is alive and still with us.  He is alive, present, close to each one of us.  He is a loving man-friend.  But that man is our God.  Through the Resurrection God and man have become one.  No longer any need to look for a God “out there”.  God is our humanity.  God is in in every human being we meet. 

As Enhanced Males, we can meditate on what this means for our relationships with the males that focus our attention and stir our loins.  Every encounter with a human being is an encounter with God.  Jesus, after all, said: “If you do it to one of the least of these, you do it to me.”  There are certainly lots of ways in our modern world’s existence where our fellow human beings are crying out for intimacy.  There is Jesus, alive, God and man, crying out for intimacy.

There is no reason why we should exclude from this focus those males who long for and find fulfilment in the intimate moments, however fleeting, of mansexing.  If that sounds like bold thinking, remember that the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of the Risen Jesus, is given us in order to make us bold in our thinking and to enable us, as Church, to find creative solutions to new and emerging consciousnesses of as yet unfathomed depths in the human make up.

In the past the value of mansexing was hidden from human consciousness or repressed, now it emerges and we are witnesses to it.  But this emergence and the creative embrace we can give it, could be, itself, a sign that the Risen Lord is truly with us.

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Religious Freedom.

In Indiana they are tussling with something that looks like popular support for the homosexual, gay and lesbian, lifestyle.  People are suspicious of legislation which is meant to protect religious freedom against government intervention restricting religious positions and practices.  There are those who fear that somehow this could be used to discriminate against gays, by people, not governments.

I gather that it works like this: you can put up a notice outside a Christian-run café saying “No gays allowed”, and claim that the whole organization sincerely believes that being gay is against God’s law, and nobody can tell you to take the notice down.  You are exercising your guaranteed religious freedom.

It sounds a bit far-fetched, it may be an empty fear.  But one can admire a group of people who want their State to be a place where gays and lesbians can be free to be themselves, and, most important of all a State free from discrimination.  But isn’t there another law that makes discriminatory behaviour of any kind illegal?

Happily, the Catholic Church, whilst maintaining the sinfulness of the homosexual acts some of us have learned to love and venerate, decries as contrary to the gospel any discrimination against people on the grounds of their homosexual nature. 

The problem in this case is the difficulty of not discriminating against, for example, mansexers whilst condemning what they do.  Isn’t the condemnation of what mansexers do already a type of discrimination?  Don’t we simply need the world to say, “Some men enjoy having sex with men, good for them.”I may be wrong, but I feel that, as long as there is condemnation there will continue to be discrimination.

Saturday, March 28, 2015

The Innocence of Sex

What Stefano writes from Xersex makes some very good points indeed, especially when he says that porn ought not to be the whole of our sex life.  

It's what I try to explain with the latin statement: Omnia munda mundis! from the Letter of S. Paul to Titus: Tt 1,15.  Your friend is so right. I love pornography, because I love sex, and obviously pornography is linked to sex. If my sexuality was only there, this would be a restricted living of my sexuality. But I make sex, if not love, with living men, but sometimes I love watching a porn scene or movie or only pics! what is bad? is it bad? I don't believe that. Let's enjoy all life can bring us: sex, joy, not forgetting affection through sex itself.”

I have a feeling that sex has been suppressed for thousands of years and we have got to re-discover it, re-interpet it, fathom its depths and possibilities.  We start, of course from recognizing sex as a value in itself, independent of procreation and creating families.  But the world seems to know little about that, because of at least two thousand years of suppression or repression of sex.  It just did not ought to exist.  But when you admit sex, then what?  Perhaps what we have got to re-discover is the pure innocence of sex.