Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Sexually Individual

I heard Conner Habib in a chat show available on you tube say a wonderfully creative and liberating thing.  He reckons that there are as many sexualities as there are people.  Each of us has his own sexual individual make up.  We have to be ourselves and find ourselves as sexual beings.  Another dimension he kind of touched on was the formation that religion has given us.  There, the only spiritual avenues that were open to us were really sex-negative.  Here I am speaking not Conner Habib.  After we have found and realized how to be faithful to our own sexuality we have to incorporate it into our spirituality.  
One thing I have become certain of is that Jesus is with us in the process of becoming our true sexual selves and integrating that with the spiritual path he indicates; the way of loving one another.  We have to acknowledge that the dynamic urge I call "enhanced masculinity" is about relating to another male as a sexual being, as another expression of the male sexual dynamic that I feel. 
This in itself is already spiritual and easily seen as capable of being integrated into Jesus' dynamic of loving one another, being one with one another, serving one another.  Indeed, the asexual spiritual approach then begins to appear as isolationist, totally opposed to the Christian dynamic of love, compassion and unity.  The gift of enhanced masculinity is meant to draw men together to enjoy their masculinity together in its full sexual dimension.  The sexual is, manifestly, an integral component of masculinity.  But for the man who is on the wavelength of enhanced masculinity the sexual is a cardinal component of this dynamic.
Picture of Conner from his Blog
On his blog Conner writes: “Fundamentalism is the default attitude of our culture when it comes to sex. It’s an attitude composed of a psychotic certainty about what is sexually moral.  People and institutions in power may have set the stage for these fundamentalist attitudes, but everyone perpetuates them.  Whenever you slut-shame someone, whenever I reactively flinch at a friend’s sexual preference, whenever we unthinkingly let a sexual taboo go unchallenged, even if we are sex positive, we reinforce sexual fundamentalism.  The best way to combat fundamentalism is to cultivate in thinking, feeling and action, a true plurality. Sexually, you may engage with people you might not normally find attractive, try a new sexual act, question your patterns and boundaries.”

That I find powerful and persuasive thinking that coincides with my ideas.  A link to Conner’s blog is to be found on my “interesting sites” list at the bottom far right if you scroll down.

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

In the Service of Cock

Sam on his blog “The adventures of a redneck fist pig. “ (See “my blogs” column on right.) under the date of December 12 published a beautifully written account of his servicing a Middle Eastern man at the glory hole.  He spiritualizes it immediately by citing the principle “Make love not war.”  By that he means give erotic pleasure to other men out of love.  As I read it I saw the author as a man beautifully dedicated to gospel values of love and to assuring the value of erotic communion between men.  Plus, an added bonus, at the end of reading his blog entry I shot a huge load.  The title of the blog entry I am referring to is "Middle Eastern Men - Make Love Not War."  Sam has since posted some enlightening "rules" for encouraging true spiritual depth between men sexing with each other.  "The exchange of male energy should always be completed," Sam writes, "with love and devotion to one another."  He also writes: "Individual is free to put into practice what he understands to be correct and only the divine lord god will guide every person to worship in the best possible manner."  I like the freedom for development and giving place to our fetishes that this implies.  I also like the definition of men sexing with each other as "the exchange of male energy".  For me that really hits the nail on the head.

Friday, December 11, 2015

Being Ourselves

Business took me away from home for three weeks in Novem ber.  Then I spent a week at the bedside of a dying colleague and another week burying him.
I was much inspired  by the comments on my last post. I take up here what Patrick wrote, him in black and me in red : Over the past few months I have been reflecting on what it really means to be Catholic, a Religious and Gay!  We have such a wrong understanding of God’s intentions for us in our world today.  We are called to pass on a real understanding of what God’s intentions are for us.  We are called to witness that God challenges us to reach out to one another without any discrimination.  God is sending us to build bridges between different tribes, classes, nations and religions.  I like that because it fits straight into the gospel where Jesus wants us all to be one.  God is against all things divisive between human beings.  The first thing that leaps into my mind is that our enhanced masculinity is a superb vehicle for uniting all of us moved by the mighty masculine spirit. 
Patrick continues: We are called to live as brothers of one another independently of any differences of race, colour, sexual preference or religion.  Patrick there is poignantly addressing the present world situation.  Our practice of enhanced masculinity is wonderfully suited to building bridges of brotherhood, if only the world could accept it as such.  The problem is with the stage of consciousness of our organized religions with regard to that.  They lag behind and seek security in conservatism.  That makes it very difficult for people to remain within the religious movement and profess openly the value of mansex.  Such profession normally results in us getting thrown out, witness what happened to Mgr  Krysztof Charamsa recently. 
 Such events make it very difficult for us to do what Patrick says: Our religion should not separate us from others, but it should establish unity and solidarity among all.  It should enable us to testify that our sexuality is gift! That it can unite rather than separate us.  Male or female, straight or gay, bisexual or lesbian or transgender each of us in his/her own way reflects to the world an image of God.  Each one of us is created in the image and likeness of God! So that there is something about our homosexual nature that is created to make present a particular aspect of God. No doubt we will never probe the mystery exactly, but the beauty of masculinity and mansex is a good starting point.  Patrick says: Each one of us is a part of that great creation on which God gazed and pronounced it to be “very good indeed”.  That includes our very homosexual character that God created as part of our individuality.
Patrick’s final section is inspirational: So, as Catholic, Religious & Gay, we are especially privileged to use our special position in creation to do all in our power to testify to this reality.  It means being true to our God, to our religion, true to our calling, true to our specific sexuality.  It means pulling down all the barriers that separate us one from another.  What a calling! What a destiny! What a mission is ours in the world at present!  How frightening a destiny!  Yet, I am sure it is what each of us is called to be!
I think that what Patrick is feeling after there is a sacramental character for enhanced masculinity and mansex.  When I masturbate and interact erotically with other men from within the Mystery of Christ, that is, as a baptized Christian, I am giving power in their masculinity to men the world over.  Such activity is grace-sharing and needs to be recognized as such. It is open to us to enact a spiritual transformation of the cosmos through mansex, just because we are members of the Body of Christ.