I heard Conner Habib in a chat show available on you tube say a wonderfully creative and liberating thing. He reckons that there are as many sexualities as there are people. Each of us has his own sexual individual make up. We have to be ourselves and find ourselves as sexual beings. Another dimension he kind of touched on was the formation that religion has given us. There, the only spiritual avenues that were open to us were really sex-negative. Here I am speaking not Conner Habib. After we have found and realized how to be faithful to our own sexuality we have to incorporate it into our spirituality.
One thing I have become certain of is that Jesus is with us in the process of becoming our true sexual selves and integrating that with the spiritual path he indicates; the way of loving one another. We have to acknowledge that the dynamic urge I call "enhanced masculinity" is about relating to another male as a sexual being, as another expression of the male sexual dynamic that I feel.
This in itself is already spiritual and easily seen as capable of being integrated into Jesus' dynamic of loving one another, being one with one another, serving one another. Indeed, the asexual spiritual approach then begins to appear as isolationist, totally opposed to the Christian dynamic of love, compassion and unity. The gift of enhanced masculinity is meant to draw men together to enjoy their masculinity together in its full sexual dimension. The sexual is, manifestly, an integral component of masculinity. But for the man who is on the wavelength of enhanced masculinity the sexual is a cardinal component of this dynamic.
|Picture of Conner from his Blog|
On his blog Conner writes: “Fundamentalism is the attitude of our culture when it comes to sex. It’s an attitude composed of a psychotic certainty about what is sexually moral. People and institutions in power may have set the stage for these fundamentalist attitudes, but everyone perpetuates them. Whenever you slut-shame someone, whenever I reactively flinch at a friend’s sexual preference, whenever we unthinkingly let a sexual taboo go unchallenged, even if we are sex positive, we reinforce sexual fundamentalism. The best way to combat fundamentalism is to cultivate in thinking, feeling and action, a true plurality. Sexually, you may engage with people you might not normally find attractive, try a new sexual act, question your patterns and boundaries.”
That I find powerful and persuasive thinking that coincides with my ideas. A link to Conner’s blog is to be found on my “interesting sites” list at the bottom far right if you scroll down.